I have been wrestling with a relationship in my life where I do not feel seen or heard. It is someone I’ve known for 20 years, and while we have never been extremely close I thought this individual knew me better.
A recent interaction rubbed me the wrong way — something where they did not remember something very pivotal and important in my life.
I was nevertheless pissed, and I immediately shut the conversation down.
My thoughts were:
they do not deserve to ask more questions on this topic
they do not know me and I thought they did
WTF
Then today I was listening to a podcast and I had this aha moment.
Once I heard this individual ask me a question that I know I’ve shared intimately about — I stopped being authentic. Rather than say, “We’ve talked about this before,” I shut down and walked away from the conversation.
I didn’t feel seen or heard, which are triggers for me.
Yet, this podcast got me thinking how my walking away meant that I was not being authentic to myself. I was giving away my power.
When we are in alignment with our inner power — feeling grounded, calm, and can see ourselves — we can be strong with our outer power.
Next time, I will stay true to me and say, “We’ve talked about this before.”
I’ll keep my power, won’t seethe with anger and stay true to me.
Where in your life are you walking away, giving your power away and not staying true to you?
I know it is not easy, especially when it may be something or someone that triggers you.
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