As a kid, I was never taught to feel the feels.
I was told to buck up and be strong and deal with whatever came my way. And, a lot did. I lost my parents when I was 16 and 20, am a survivor of abuse, paid my way through college, the list goes on, and yet through it all I was taught to not talk about it.
Yet everything coaching has brought to my life these past years is to FEEL the FEELS.
Allow the emotion to happen.
When we judge ourselves for the emotions we are having, we add an extra layer of emotion. We feel bad that we feel bad. We feel bad that we feel shame.
The easiest way to process through your emotions is to let them happen. Be down, get mad, cry. Whatever you have to do.
Think about it this way. You feel overwhelmed. Too much is happening in your life. If you didn’t allow the feelings how would you ever know that something has to shift?
You might watch someone else going through a life changing event, or you have a health scare, or you just decide one day that you are not going to do it all.
Your emotions are vibrations in your body that tell you what is going on, often yelling at us when we are not listening.
Lately I have been having feelings of nostalgia — my son is growing up way too fast and going to start Kindergarten in the Fall. In 7 weeks to be exact. For me that triggers so many emotions — I won’t be able to pick him up soon (he will be too heavy), he won’t want to snuggle anymore, his world will continue to expand. And, while I love that for him, it means he is growing up. So these moments of sadness of life flying by are also a reminder to cherish these moments even more over the next 7 weeks.
What emotions are you allowing and what are you blocking?
