People pleasing.
It’s a thing.
We want everyone to like us.
We want to be good, make everyone happy, and keep everything cool.
But it sucks.
People pleasing sucks.
Right now if you are white you are potentially worried about what to say.
If you are not white you do may not give a shit about pleasing anyone right now.
If you are a woman you probably grew up trying to please everyone.
You were the good girl. You just wanted everyone to be happy. Because that was what you were taught. Be good. Do good. Don’t ruffle any feathers.
But damn. Screw all that.
Say the thing that needs to be said. Stop worrying about what other people think. Stop trying to please others, and start with yourself.
What do you think?
What do you want?
What do you need?
If right now you need to take the time and space to learn, to understand, and to be better, take it.
But don’t do it to please others, do it because it is what you want, and what you think is right.
A lot of us are recovering people pleasers (most especially us women). If you want to learn how to STOP trying to make everyone happy, and instead live your life unapologetically, sign up for time to chat with me. We can talk about where to start.
