Today after school my son came and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I told him I loved him and he said back, “I love you too mama.” He is almost 6 years old and these little mini conversations bring tears to my eyes for how precious they are but for how quickly they could pass as he grows up.
My husband and I have made a point to make sure our son is “seen.” It is more important to me to be present, listen to him, and honor what he is going through and truly “see” him — than to be right on any occasion.
I always felt invisible as a kid. Like my opinion didn’t matter. Adults were always right (even when they weren’t.)
What does that do to the beliefs of a kid who is trying to find their voice? To always second guess when you should people please, when you might get penalized for speaking up, and overall shutting down listening to that voice in our head.
It’s part of my vision and mission in coaching and life to do what I can do to “see others” so they can live a better life. It’s like holding up a mirror to you and saying, “See, you are there, you do matter, what you think matters, and you can be bold and get the things you want in life.”
Sometimes we just need someone to tell us the hard things, be a cheerleader, and give us a kick in the ass.
Make sure you take moments to see others in your life, and most especially the time to see yourself.
If you are stuck and need a kick in the ass, reach out to me and we can chat further. I already “see” you.
